This article describes the experiences of a group of parents in New Zealand who lost infants to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and who monitored their subsequent infants or subsibs (infants born after the death of an infant due to SIDS) at home for signs of apnea. Their caregiving experiences are explored within the framework of the substantive theory developed by Cohen (1993) that describes how another group of parents, those caring for children with chronic life-threatening illnesses, copes with living under conditions of sustained uncertainty. Attention is drawn to the similarities in both the grieving processes and coping strategies used by both groups of parents in these parallel situations.