Little attention has been paid to the specific problems of mothers with chronic illness. In this study of mothers with asthma, we asked the question: "how do they manage their illness"? We interviewed a purposive sample of four Dutch and four Canadian mothers living with asthma and varying in age and socio-economic class. Our analysis explored challenges the mothers face, three main strategies of non-medical illness management (prevention, normalization and mobilizing support), and the influence of age and class differences. Unhealthy cycles of living with asthma are identified and suggestions for mother-specific interventions are offered. By drawing attention to the gendered nature of chronic illness management and to patients' own experiences, a more useful frame of reference is created for professionals who do not have first hand knowledge of living with a chronic illness.